12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others For Everything

January 26, 2012

excerpted from

“It’s All Your Fault!” 12 Tips for Managing People Who Blame Others For Everything

By Bill Eddy, Attorney, Mediator and Therapist


Tip #1

Don’t Take Their Personal Attacks Personally

High Conflict People blame somebody else—almost anybody—when things don’t go well for them. The person they blame could be a neighbor, a co-worker,

a family member, or even a stranger. This “Target of Blame” could even be you. If you’re not someone’s Target of Blame yet, you could be soon. High Conflict

People are increasing in our society. I wrote this book to help people prepare themselves for this increase of blaming

in our society. For the past 30 years I’ve been working to resolve conflicts as a mediator, therapist, and attorney. In every area of life I’ve seen an increase in

“high-conflict” disputes, where one person takes no responsibility for being part of the problem or part of the solution. So the problem just gets worse. Take, for

example, the neighbor from hell.

High Conflict Institute provides training and consultations, as well and books, DVDs and CDs regarding dealing with High Conflict People (HCPs) in legal, workplace, educational, and healthcare disputes. Bill Eddy is the President of the High Conflict Institute and the author of It’s All Your Fault!, Splitting, BIFF: Quick Responses to High Conflict People, Their Hostile Emails, Personal Attacks and Social Media Meltdowns and Don’t Alienate the Kids!. He is an author, attorney, mediator, and therapist. Bill has presented seminars to attorneys, judges, mediators, ombudspersons, human resource professionals, employee assistance professionals, managers, and administrators in 25 states, several provinces in Canada, France, Sweden, and Australia. For more information about High Conflict Institute, our seminars and consultations, Bill Eddy or to purchase a book, CD or DVD, visit: http://www.HighConflictInstitute.com

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