Excerpt from Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with a Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder

August 16, 2011

Splitting focuses specifically on dealing with borderline and narcissistic personalities in divorce cases. It is not a thorough explanation of all family court procedures. There is a wide range of outcomes in these cases, and the outcome of your case will be determined by factors both in and out of your control. Armed with information about the predictable general patterns of these disputes, you will be better prepared to manage your case, but there are no guarantees.

We sincerely hope this book will help you, your attorney, and others involved in your case to negotiate reasonable out-of-court settlements whenever possible, or present accurate information in family court in ways that solve problems rather than escalate them.

There is a wide range of possibilities when a divorce involves someone with borderline personality (BP) or narcissistic personality (NP) traits: from fairly manageable out-of-court settlements to highly adversarial court battles with multiple allegations of abusive behavior. This book will give you problem-solving strategies across this range of unknown possibilities. Addressing what to expect and what to do, this book focuses on:

  • Conflict dynamics of people with BP and NP traits
  • What occurs in today’s family courts
  • The importance of the various court-related professionals
  • How court cases with people with BP or NP traits can go badly, unless you’re well-prepared
  • What you can do to protect yourself and your children, and get enforceable court orders

Throughout this book we provide case examples from Bill’s clinical and legal practice, altering all identifying information or using composites of actual cases, as well as alternating between male and female examples.


2 Responses to “Excerpt from Splitting: Protecting Yourself While Divorcing Someone with a Borderline or Narcissistic Personality Disorder”

  1. I sure wish I’d had this information before the divorce and before my ex completely alienated my children from me. 😦

  2. momto3ofherown Says:

    Been dealing with my Husband’s ex for 8 years, wish we had had this book 8 years ago. BUT, Alas we have custody of the kids anyway and really do not deal with her too much. We do a lo documenting and ignoring. Maybe I should buy this book to see if there is a more effective way to deal with her now.

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